Friday, 26 December 2008

Top 6 Dating Questions

I just found these 6 questions on a blog and felt like sharing it with all.They really mean more than they look ...donno kw how much of it is true but whats the harm in trying ??...

so peep in your mates heart ;)

1) What's your favorite domestic animal? Give me three reasons why?

2) What's your favorite wild animal? Give me three reasons why?

3) If you were deserted on a beach, give me three emotions you'd feel.

4) If you were in a forest, what are three emotions you'd feel?

5) If you were in a white room surrounded by people dressed in white, give me three emotions you'd feel.

6) What's your favorite food? Give me three reasons why?

What’s the Meaning Behind These Funny Dating Questions to Ask And finally, what do his/her answers mean?

1) The reasons he/ she gave for her favorite 'domestic animal' is how he/she thinks other people see him/her.

2) The reasons she gave for her favorite 'wild animal' is how he/she sees himself/herself.

3) The emotions he/she gave for how he'd/she'd feel on a 'deserted beach' are his/her current views on life.

4) The emotions he/she gave for how he'd/she'd feel in a 'forest' are his/her views on death.

5) The emotions he/she gave for how he'd/she'd feel in a 'white room' are his/her views on marriage.

6) And the three reasons for why he/she likes his/her 'favorite food' are his/her views on sex.

comment and lemme kw how you like it ?

adios c ya

Friday, 19 December 2008

Smart ways to make Women fall for you !!

Under Promise & Over Deliver:
This is a very famous marketing rule which works equally well with women. Women set quite high standards for themselves and consider every one else beneath them(sorry but i feel its true). To get above her, you need to exceed her expectations. May be thats why when men try to show and do big things for her like: getting her expensive gifts or dinner at some expensive resturant so that it impresses them.
But for a change of fact its not always true. Things like simple cards, being on time for a date or movie, getting her flowers every time you show up, passionate and steamy calls,even taking her
out on long drives would bring you up in the priority list etc. Its simple dont promise her you would so many things for her or such big things for her just take her by surprise. Just do simple but innovative things true love appreciate creativity than so called BIG things.

Praising & Noticing Her:
Most women would like to receive the most attention from their partner. Tell her how much you appreciate her feelings her looks her values etc. Tell people about how amazing and
beautiful you find her esp when she isnt so confident about herself.This will make her feel that you value her even when she isnt at her best.
On a regular basis too, you should keep on telling her that how different she is from others, what is the reason that you fall for her. Women like to hear what their partner thinks of them. They like to be noticed.Thats a hidden fact they would say they dont like attention but see them blush when you praise her!!! Thus simple acts of noticing her can make you two get closer to one another.

SHOW what YOU feel for her:
Showing a woman what you feel for her can get her spinning in your arms. If you wear your heart on sleeves be honest, it can almost be guaranteed that she would do the same. Sharing intimate feelings always helps. Showing your gal, how badly you want her will inspire her more and will open her up in front of you.Tell her that how desperate you have been to meet her.Tell her how important she is dont lie for this please "Women can truly catch true praises and lies" .If you honestly mean it then this can make you win more than half of the battle.

Take her in your life:
This does not mean that you cannot do the guy’s stuff. You simply need to involve her in the acts that you do, in the decisions that you take. Making her feel honored and a part of your life can get her right in there. Some little acts like asking her to participate in certain decisions you
take, discussing some important facts of your life, introducing her as your girl admist your friends or holding her hand in front of them etc.

Get some originality and some humor:
Women hate when men copy. However, if you come up with something original and special for her, I am sure she would get crazy for you. Set up some innovative ideas for her birthday, your date or any evening outing and see the magic happening. Be creative dont be mechanical thinking of gifting her so and so would impress her not so happening idea dear rather she
count you up in the same plate as other guys have been so if wanna go up the priority list be creative think "Hatke".Cracking little funny jokes is essential thats not only to lighten the atmosphere around you but also because girls hate nerds!! they hate people who only talk about themselves or only about work or sorta only about any one particular thing so if you cant talk about variety of things try some jokes ;) easy.
Making your girl laugh is stupendous, But yap be careful DONT CRACK JOKES ON YOUR GIRL just put some crazy jokes she will find you lovely.

Listening out her and reassuring her:
Just be listening her side of the story, you can become the most sought after man. Put your eyes and ears to what she has to say, respond positively (no blame game please) and IF REQUIRED advise her. I put it in caps bz many men will advise unnecessarily even when not asked here it depends on the kind of problem your girl has and the kind of girl she is if she is facing some very serious problem and she cant find a way outta it you will find that on her face she is afraid advise her then n help her, if the problems are petty something like you feel she
can handle like some regular office stuff etc give her strength n tell her im sure you can handle this. WOMEN LIKE MEN WHO MAKE THEM FEEL CONFIDENT.So Removing all her fears and insecurity and this would get a boomerang effect.

I am sure there are many more ideas and after this it will all depend if your girl is different but i believe these are some basic things that would work for every girl but again "Please be honest about everything" if you keep trying all this and you arent being honest may be then you are not honest either to yourself or to your girl.
try this and lemme kw

Tuesday, 16 December 2008

Marital blues....

Sometimes you donno what to ans someone go arnd being or atleast sounding like some big time counsellor (lk i do) offering solutions to all problems in life sounding lk magician to friends but at times you really donno what to say ??
Read the above link and the guy's post and you donno what to say to him...i started to comment at his blog and stopped myself thinking is this the right thing to say?

the guy loves his wife a lot and is somehow tolerating her affair wid someone....even though his wife detests him she wants a baby from him(clueless what on earth for then !!!) comment wanted to b simple there's no point having the baby if she is not urs....she should be your's before you both can give your completely to your family that is your baby....

But i stopped thinking whats the point should the guy really compromise and wait??? wait for what isnt the guy having his own life ??
does he not have the right to be happy too?
or he should keep loving and wait fo rhis love to be his even when he kws he could also be loved equally or more by someone else??

My question was damn simple for myself ..
if you cant get a response in love is it valid to keep loving and tolerating insults?
be cheated and decieved again and again??? for what on earth?

anywz all this choice is very personal so i dint put up the comment at all...may b its true "Marriages are made in heaven but lived wid love on earth"

need your views on this...
c ya :)

Monday, 15 December 2008

Luscious Lips

I dont really apply a lot of make up but today was a birthday of my friend sonia who unofficially yells at my blog :D ...something that i got curious about all girls there was how their lips looked like well obviously they all looked lovely but i was trying to focus lk whats on a face that steals the show i personally feel they are your eyes and your lips (esp when you talk people do unknowingly look at how you open your mouth tats in instinct notice when you see somebody talking or explaining something you would suddenly feel like concentrating on other person's lips patially though ..n thats natural bz you need to understand what the other one says) all in all i was chking out what lips should look like..

I came back home realised my lip balm is my best friend for my lips keeps it soft and adds a partial colour thats not like excess of glossy lipstick.
But thats for people like me who evade makeup ther are lots people who find it gud to put up lotsa glossy stuff on there lips ...
So i got back home and assigned myself some work sort to find out what kinda lips and what makeup or Lip Care do they need ... Think Angelina tonight ;) see this now

Full lips(God gifted !! ): Angelina Jolie style Lucky you! You have lips that some women would kill for. No lip plumpers needed your way as they're already full looking. If you have really full lips and want to play them down(for some proffessional look!! for what else on earth would you want to play them down ??), opt for darker colours, and when using lip liner, line just inside the lips.

Thin lips: Courteney Cox Arquette style Just as the name applies, these lips are thin on top and bottom. To avoid making your lips look too thin, stick with light to medium shades, and dot some gloss or iridescent powder on the middle of the bottom lip to make it look fuller.

Thin on top, full on bottom: Heidi Klum style You've got a little of both — think Angelina meets Courteney. If you want to make them appear more even, try lining just inside the bottom lip, and just outside the top lip. You can also try using a slightly darker lip shade on the bottom, and applying a little gloss to the top only.

Tip: using lip pencil to make your lips look bigger, or more even, is a common make-up trick. But note: it's only useful if wanting to alter the appearance of your lips slightly — colouring too far outside the lines can look fake.

For the Eye wait next Time :)

Friday, 12 December 2008

How do You CRY?

***Loud criers
Far too loud than expected they can cry anywhere.Seriously sick about crying and panicking. they panic about anything and everything from missing a book to missing a train like just anything from wrong icecreams to wrong dress just like panic with watever they have at hand....they are hard to tolerate them untill and unless they are cute lovely girls :P.
Well its very easy to deal with them IGNORE THEM seriously you cant deal with them :P to be honest haha :D . No i mean BUT if she's one of your gf's kind GIVE HER LOTS LOTS OF ATTENTION :D tats what they need ....they panic calm them and attend them ignoring them would make them cry louder for attention.
They arent real crier's not that they are truly hurt and tats y crying they just want people to know "Look at me something wrong has happened i feel helpless".... in short dont wry things wil calm down far too sooner than it looks lk :P :)

***Lip biters crier's
hmm.. this one is tough to explain well they are nervous people kinda shy they dont know rather unsure if they should cry at public or should sob silently.Most often you would find them biting their lips on the verge of crying their face turns red n eyes watery lips being bitten due to nervousness overall they look cute to b sympathised.... Now they really need people with solutions bz these are people who dont kw what to do with the problems and far to unsure to kw that they can solve it themselves.... they dont trust themselves almost at all...

I have known people lk these esp when lemme say a girl loses something really costly she gets confused bz she doesnt kw wher to n how to solve the problems btw im not generalising it just that i have seen girl's lk this not sure guys face similar calming them down is 1st solution n next is to get them to some solution.

***Lonely criers
these are a set of criers who cry when they are alone.
Most often they live in a shell that tells them you are too strong to cry in front of lots of people.They dont or cant blame anybody they feel there's always a practical aspect to everything and can come out of it and thats why its too hard to accept that you have lost something ...they rule out the fact that they can lose from anybody or can lose from life.

Its practically fine to be one of these kinda criers but what harms them it the built up pressure they consume their own energies expect too much from their ownselves and often end up building stress around themselves. Most men and high estimed women fall in this category they sob and sob lonely only to blame themselves at the end.

It is often made up of people who really mean when they cry because they cant cry in open they need space and lot of sensitiveness to be dealt with, they need friends and loved one's around who dont sympathise with them, Yes i mean not those who tell them life will move on forget this n that ...they dont need lectures nor do they need re-assurances in other words they dont want ANYBODY ELSE OTHER THAN THEIR OWNSELF to tell them what to do. They just wanna cry n want their loved one's to hold them Thats It!!
For wife's :: As most men fall in this category,leave husbands to cry for sometime if they feel lk they dont need ur sympathy just b with them. Dont lecture it makes things worse for them to deal with.

In all these crying i believe there are still levels of crying lk
level 1 - low
level 2 - medium
level 3 - HIGH

definetly most dangerous one is level 3 of loud criers im sure no one will stand to tolerate this its lk you have kept some bomb next to the person who is crying thats lk some firealarm lolz :P but trust me there are people lk this :)

truly and emotionally churning is level 3 of Lonely crier's as i said they add lotsa stress to themselves to hurt themselves more they listen to none even when they can have some real gud thing to listen they avoid as they start beliving themselves as ALL KNOWERS.

Level 1 and 2 of any of these 3 categories are actually bz at the end of they day intensity of each person to cry and react to a situation is different and levels along with the types can easily characterise them easily...I'm sure each one of us can fit into a category ....even when we dont accept it publically we all know some or the other time in life we did cry .....reasons and explainations might be different but its true that we do do cry and IF YOU DONT then you sure arnt human or else a liar :)

choice is your's
oops!!! btw im level 2 Lonely criers kind who's in my group???? :D

adios c ya

Saturday, 15 November 2008

Forget what you want to ....HELP youself

ScienceDaily (2005-03-24) -- Researchers exploring the brain structures involved in recalling an emotional memory a year later have found evidence for a self-reinforcing "memory loop" -- in which the brain's emotional center triggers the memory center, which in turn further enhances activity in the emotional center.

which proves one of the facts that if you really want to forget something you need to reinforce it with some better memories happens to simply overlap the part you wanna forget ...and a better option is dont force yourself to forget something ..
let things come n go try not to react to the scene you wanna eliminate.
I understand its tough to forget the trauma or pain your have gone through because of the fear or anxiety of being rewinded back into it ..or fear of gng through it agn ..
But the more you stress to forget something the more your norardrenile glands react emotionally to those thoughts dont run away keep facing it widout reactions ..
It will definitely so happen that at the initial stage you would need assistance to control the emotional activeness related to the incident but eventually wen you try being nonchalant to those scenes they will make you feel lighter.
People might say time has healed it all but the truth is your brain does it all ...
for eg if u ever had accident so fierce that you cant remove it scenes from your mind ...
try this
1st - dont force yourself to form an opinion about cars n people driving roads etc related to accidents bz if you do so you would end up consciously reminding yourself about things related to the scene of accident.

2nd - Dont RUN AWAY fear takes over if you run away ..not riding car or vehicle in which you had accident is not the solution brain keeps noting down your reactions to things and aggravates your dislike to a particular thing and that gets worst if you really wanna forget something.

3rd - When you rem the scenes from your accident tell your self constantly to CALM DOWN and let the scenes flow the 1st few stages you will definitely feel disturbed and haunted but after sometime you will realise that scenes have automatically stopped flowing :)
if you consiously break the pattern of flow of these memories then they will end up haunting you over n over again...
This is called ACCEPTANCE ...accept the bad phase it will help you forget bad feelings and memories...

4rth- this one is most imp... make sure you learn something from what has happened to you in the accident...
this time when you drive take all the precautions and then ride your vehicle ..
to this do something that enhances your pleasan experiences related to the vehicle lk take your kids or wife wid you so that you come back home remembering the pleasant time you had with your family that the accident. Pleasant feelings always overried bad memories and strains.

i hope my tips were helpful..

adios c u next time

Wednesday, 12 November 2008


Just begun with a though and wanted to leave it unedited ..the other blog that you see of mine is coloured filled with pictures and lots of warmth ...
here its just the reverse i dont welcome you to see this nor is this place warm ..its damp ..damp with my thoughts completely i dont care to edit it nor do i care to add pics here nor to beautify it nor would i worry if someone hate it...
I am beginning this blog now only for one reason and that is myself...
So this blog will be responsible for jotting down my updates n unedited thoughts about differenet things in life..for people who wish to read widout any fancy ..
adios til u see my next post here ............